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Top 10 Traits of An Empowered Woman

Hi all…

I came across this article and well it hit a nerve…I loved very word though I also know I am not truly living all of it. This will be changing NOW…

Here is the article — what stuck out for you?

http://soulspottv.com/blog/top_10-traits-of-a-fully-empowered-woman/

Take a stand,

Kara x

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Needs, Values and Cheating!

Scenario posted on Facebook today – “I cheated on my wife! It was just a way out to get out of the mundane life we’d created. I love her, but I don’t love the life we’ve had. I want to ‘start again’, but she’s too bruised to even think about being with me. How can I make her understand it from my side?”

Others responses included alot of finger pointing, judgement and harsh comments…

My Response…

First we must appreciate that people go against their values to fill their needs. This is not about trust, wedding vows, broken promises nor ‘cheating’…whatever that is exactly. This is about a person not having their needs met and most likely in this scenario both parties are not having their needs met. As human beings we operate from 6 basic needs first and foremost…then on top of that we have our values, based on our rules we have set for ourselves which is based on our environment, core beliefs of self etc then not to mention our hierarchy of needs. Which without any of our needs being met, we seek it out in order to meet it. So if he was lacking connection/love as a need and even though as a value he is committed to his wife, his need comes first…so then say he’s out, gets a little ongoing attention from a lady (maybe he doesn’t get at home anymore) and ‘BAM’ he goes into fill my need mode…Does he feel good about it? Hell NO, he has gone against his values which are made up of his rules….a constant battle, though his human need has been fulfilled (for now). Now, I am not suggesting this is his way to cop out, though as people we are completely responsible for the choices we make, both parties are responsible for the way they BE in each others company…be it mundane…maybe and quite possibly she has filled any of her unmet needs another way – we don’t get to hear that side. In an ideal world, we are all enlightened and needs do not exist…though we are human and this is a looooong way off.  I am in no way suggesting this is easy though we must appreciate that there are always two sides to every story and somewhere in the middle is the truth! Don’t be so quick to judge – judgement comes from your own rules which make up your own values…As Nicole suggests he must find peace so he can operate from love….see what happens!! Maybe this is the wake up call their mundane life needed!!!

Your thoughts??

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Introduction to Live with Purpose!

Welcome to my first post…as I sit here I wonder where do I start, so I think its best to begin with who am I…

My name is Kara and I have a vision…everyone can be living inside a relationship with a partner understanding and supporting eachother to live their dreams. This is possible.

Inspired by my own experience of separation after 8 years and 2 children, I had never set an intention to end up as a single parent though I had not actually set an intention otherwise…being that we were not married.

Making a decision to empower myself and move forward on my own I sought to seek answers to what had led me down the path of separated with children.  Over the next few years I chose to remain single to breakdown my relationship into pieces and get a real knowing of what it was that failed, through alot of reading and self education I made some incredible discoveries about the differences between men and women inside relationships and whilst on the dating scene, not to mention…what it means to be on purpose!

For more on Kara – please click on ‘About the Author’ TAB…thank you!

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