Questions determine everything you do in life, form your abilities to your relationships to your income. Many people fail to commit to a relationship simply becasue they keep asking questions that create doubt “What if there’s somebody better out there?” and “What if I commit myself and miss out?”. This fuels the fire that keeps you thinking the grass is greener and prevents you from enjoying what is already in your life…Sometimes these same people destroy the relationships they do have with more disempowering questions: “How come you always do this to me?” What if I leave right now, how would that make you feel?”…Compare these questions to “How did I get so lucky to have you in my life?”, “What do I love more about my partner today?” “How much richer will our lives be as a result of our relationship?”
This is not to say that one must settle, far from it actually. I found myself in a situation where I was offered the greatest job some years ago doing exactly what I wanted to do with an International company, I turned it down because I hadn’t heard back from all my options…I guess you know what happened. I took the job that ended up being not so fulfilling, I thought the grass was greener! Maybe if I asked myself, “How lucky am I to have been offered my dream job?” and “How richer will my life be as a result of me being in this job?”…AND, I have definetly thought the grass could be greener when it cam to commitment…it was 5 years of self reflection and growth that now I look at my relationship today with everyone, mostly my partner and am ever so grateful, knowing that my life is so enriched!
“The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your communication and the quality of communication is determined by the quality of your qestions…” Anthony Robbins