My experience certainly has been this, by not being true to myself at the beginning of a relationship and honestly operating from a scarcity mindset (have to have him…because what if he’s the ‘ONE’ and what if, no one else comes along – crazy right??)
The concept of ‘The One’ is not special, it is a belief coming from scarcity!
I lived with fear in my early 20’s and did not listen to my inner voice, nor did I communicate what it was I wanted and needed from a relationship. I was not being authentic, did I really think I could be inauthentic for the rest of my life…well YES, could I…NO…of course! Eventually I caved and sabbotaged my relationship. Always be authentic and genuine, if your date and/or partner has a problem with your true self then they are not meant to be with you – END OF STORY. Only be with a person who wants to be with you as you…
When you very first date, discuss your dealbreakers, relationSHIPS sink by the holes that were there in the very beginning! Discuss yours and disclose your dealbreakers from the very start when you have the least to loose!! Children, religion, lifestyles choices are ALL dealbreakers…know yours and be true to them!
One dealbreaker for a man must be, she loves me for who I am now and not the man I can possibly be and for women one dealbreaker must be that he loves your body just the way it is….
Be true to yourself and live abundantly, have a knowing that the universe provides enough of everything for everyone, dating with a scarcity mindset and settling for whoever takes interest will always end up being sabbotaged – be it unhappiness, divorce, lonlieness….choose abundance, authenticity and integrity.